I asked and you answered. I’ve only read a handful of these books, so I’m not endorsing them or the authors, simply reporting the answers from friends, family, and followers.
I found that most of the authors suggested are white males, who as you may guess, do not hold a monopoly on healthy relationships or great sex. If you have suggestions, please let me know so I can add them to the list. In the meantime, I would strongly encourage you read outside the box!
Which Christian dating/marriage books have either helped or misled you?
Here’s what helped.
- Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman
- Damaged Goods by Dianna Anderson
- Real Sex: The Naked Truth About Chastity by Lauren Winner
- Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage by Kevin Leman
- Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman
- You and Me Forever by Francis Chan
- Vertical Marriage by Dave and Ann Wilson
- The Gift of Sex: A Guide to Sexual Fulfillment by Clifford and Joyce Penner
- Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas
- Saving Your Marriage Before it Starts by Les and Leslie Parrott
- The Mingling of Souls: God’s Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and Redemption by Matt Chandler
- How to Get a Date Worth Keeping by Henry Cloud
- The Sacred Search: What If It’s Not Who You Marry, But Why? by Gary Thomas
- The Meaning of Marriage by Tim and Kathy Keller
- Husband in Pursuit & Wife in Pursuit by Ryan and Selena Frederick
- Love & Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
- Beyond Sex Roles by Gilbert Bilezikian
- Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage by Elizabeth Gilbert
- Sex God by Rob Bell
Other helpful authors or speakers.
- Lore Wilbert
- Mark Gungor
- Danny Silk
- Joyce Meyer
And these seemed to be misleading.
- I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris
- Emotional Purity by Heather Arnel Paulsen
- When God Writes Your Love Story by Eric and Leslie Ludy
- Dateable by Hayley DiMarco and Justin Lookadoo
If you disagree with any of the characterizations above, I’d love to hear! Obviously, there’s a lot more to say on these subjects that these few authors can cover, but it’s a start. Knowing some of the authors listed, some books most likely disagree in certain ways.
I asked this question with “purity culture” in mind. I’m curious to hear if you experienced this growing up and if there were teachings or books that promoted this in your church or religious context.